Abu Huraira reported: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “Who is most deserving of my good company?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet said “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5971, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2548

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

 

وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا ۖ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا

Worship Allah alone and associate none with Him, and be kind to parents.

Surat al-Nisa’ 4:36

And Allah said:

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَـٰنًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّۢ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًۭا كَرِيمًۭا

For your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and honour your parents. If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them even ‘ugh,’ nor yell at them. Rather, address them respectfully. Surat al-Isra’ 17:23

Allah said:

وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا

We have commanded people to honour their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years. So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return. But if they pressure you to associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them. Still keep their company in this world courteously, and follow the way of those who turn to Me in devotion. Then to Me you will all return, and then I will inform you of what you used to do.

Surat Luqman 31:14-15

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah writes:

لَيْسَ لِأَحَدِ الْأَبَوَيْنِ أَنْ يُلْزِمَ الْوَلَدَ بِنِكَاحِ مَنْ لَا يُرِيدُ وَأَنَّهُ إذَا امْتَنَعَ لَا يَكُونُ عَاقًّا وَإِذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ لِأَحَدِ أَنْ يُلْزِمَهُ بِأَكْلِ مَا يَنْفِرُ عَنْهُ مَعَ قُدْرَتِهِ عَلَى أَكْلِ مَا تَشْتَهِيهِ نَفْسُهُ كَانَ النِّكَاحُ كَذَلِكَ وَأَوْلَى It is not for either parent to require the child to marry someone they do not want, and if the child refuses they are not being disobedient. If it is not for anyone to require someone to eat what they detest, despite their ability to eat what they desire themselves, then marriage is likewise even more so. – Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/30

Obedience to Parents and its Limits

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